There's always been this pressure for girls to be slim. For as long as I can remember but what people don't realise is that black women have an extra pressure. The pressure to be curvy.
We're expected to be slim but we're also expected to have big booties or big breasts. This pressure is causing women to have boob jobs and bum implants, risking their lives to conform to these pressures. One girl actually died last year because of the bum implants she had put in but does news like that stop us in any way? Unfortunately not.
I've recently lost some weight and as a consequence I have lost a portion of my bootay. I'm not going to lie I don't like it but why don't I like it? I asked myself if it was because as a black woman I feel like I'm supposed to have a good sized backside. Honestly, my answer was yes and that made me sad. We can't all look the same period, so why does it matter that I dont have a Nikki Minaj sized arse? (not that I want it to be that big but you get the picture).
Yesterday I was looking in the mirror and I just didn't like what I saw. I'm not skinny by any means but I am significantly smaller than I was and I don't like being this small. I feel incomplete as a woman without all of my curves. The fact that I feel this way in itself is rare. How many people actually don't want to be slim? I've lost weight, I'm heading towards what some would say is an "acceptable" weight and I'm not happy. It's a shame that when you lose weight you can't tell your body where you want the weight to go from.
It's really not easy being a woman with so much pressure on us to be perfect in every way. We need to set our own personal standards and levels of perfection and stick to those. Don't let anyone tell you you're not good enough or you don't fit the mould. Trying to be "perfect" for anybody but YOU, will drive you insane. Learn to love yourself, flaws and all. It's the only way.
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We're expected to be slim but we're also expected to have big booties or big breasts. This pressure is causing women to have boob jobs and bum implants, risking their lives to conform to these pressures. One girl actually died last year because of the bum implants she had put in but does news like that stop us in any way? Unfortunately not.
I've recently lost some weight and as a consequence I have lost a portion of my bootay. I'm not going to lie I don't like it but why don't I like it? I asked myself if it was because as a black woman I feel like I'm supposed to have a good sized backside. Honestly, my answer was yes and that made me sad. We can't all look the same period, so why does it matter that I dont have a Nikki Minaj sized arse? (not that I want it to be that big but you get the picture).
Yesterday I was looking in the mirror and I just didn't like what I saw. I'm not skinny by any means but I am significantly smaller than I was and I don't like being this small. I feel incomplete as a woman without all of my curves. The fact that I feel this way in itself is rare. How many people actually don't want to be slim? I've lost weight, I'm heading towards what some would say is an "acceptable" weight and I'm not happy. It's a shame that when you lose weight you can't tell your body where you want the weight to go from.
It's really not easy being a woman with so much pressure on us to be perfect in every way. We need to set our own personal standards and levels of perfection and stick to those. Don't let anyone tell you you're not good enough or you don't fit the mould. Trying to be "perfect" for anybody but YOU, will drive you insane. Learn to love yourself, flaws and all. It's the only way.
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i love the sincerity of this entry. i also have noticed those kind of pressures. being skinny and curvy at the same time is an impossible standard. i know everyone wants their body to be womanly, but maybe now that your curves are less noticable due to your weight loss, it will make dressing modestly even easier. and guys will be less likely to stare at the wrong places :)
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Thanks for your comment Sarah, very much appreciated :) it's funny I've now embraced the weight loss since I discovered I'd actually dropped a jeans size. I want to tone up certain places but I'm going to try my best to keep it off.
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